Ann's Blog

Mar. 18, 2009 at 5:28pm

Goodbye friend

I met Debbie 15 years ago at work at the Caterpillar dealership where we worked.  We quickly formed a friendship over shared breaks smoking and joking (and my dad would say) complaining about men, work, and the joys and hardships of single motherhood.  Luckily both of us (much to our amazement) married wonderful, kind, and patient men and we both felt blessed.  I ended up leaving the dealership after marrying my husband who is now the service manager, and Debbie ended up working for him as a service clerk so we never really lost touch.  It was a shock to Paul and I to get the call this morning that Debbie passed away last night.  We're not sure what the cause was, and it's not really important to know why --  we just that we've both lost a dear friend.

Debbie never did any half-assed -- she was one full-on, get out of my way or join me, energetic little ball of fire.  She loved crafting, cooking, eating, and her cigarettes.  She knew every corny joke in the book.  She had a smoke and whiskey kind of husky voice, and a deep down belly laugh that we never tired of hearing.  We considered ourselves fortunate to call her our friend. 

It's still sinking in that she's gone.  We've cried off and on throughout the day.  Tonight I think we'll sit down over a glass of something and toast our friend who is gone too soon, but not soon forgotten.

We miss you Deb.


comments [6]  |  posted under friendship, goodbyes


by Dave_L on 3/18/2009 @ 6:31pm
Ann, please accept my sympathies over the lost of your good friend. That sounds hugely inadequate, but anything else I can think of also sounds too trite. I know this time of grief and memories is difficult.

by ensie on 3/18/2009 @ 7:07pm
So sorry to hear about your loss. Sending a prayer your way.

by Heather on 3/18/2009 @ 8:48pm
You know my heart is with you.

by jenyum on 3/19/2009 @ 12:34am
I am so sorry to hear about your loss.

by jcbetty on 3/19/2009 @ 12:58am
I just got teary. I'm so sorry for the loss of a friend, and so grateful that through your sweet words she's here for all of us, and will remain with you for longer than her life lasted. Wishing you and your husband peace in her passing, and strength to her husband...

by KevinFreitas on 3/19/2009 @ 2:09am
I'm so sorry Ann but thanks for sharing an image of your friend. We're all just a little better for it. :)