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Apr. 1, 2008 at 10:07pm

too much

I am a student at UWT. Our quarter just started and one of my fellow students burst into tears while sharing her life story ( she was raised by a single mom) while I feel for this woman I am nervous this class will be a therapy session and I feel guilty for being annoyed. Would anyone else be annoyed or am I just a jerk?

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by KevinFreitas on 4/1/2008 @ 10:32pm
What kind of class is it? If it's a psyc one then I'd say you may be in for plenty more. Something more on the tech/comp sci realm then, yea, that may be a case of TMI. Did she just share or was it asked of her to share?

by chrism39 on 4/2/2008 @ 9:23pm
It is a family development class and we were just supposed to introduce ourselves and say what our major was.

by Steph DeRosa on 4/4/2008 @ 8:16pm
If her life stories and long-winded answers begin to become a personal therapy session for her - and begin taking away from actual learning time - I would suggest talking to the teacher about it privately after class.

Maybe suggest to the teacher that although you are sensitive to what this woman has gone through, you feel it is taking away from the class' time.

When this woman begins to give TMI, the teacher could easily ask her to continue the conversation after class, when more private attention can be given to her needs.

by ensie on 4/4/2008 @ 11:22pm
Oh man, that would bug the crap out of me. Classes are for learning. Therapists are for this sort of thing.

I second Steph's advice.

by jcbetty on 4/5/2008 @ 2:50pm
I graduated from UWT a year ago and have to say that my best "no disclosure" classes were psych classes-- those profs were usually the best at clarifying, up front, "this is a psych class, not your personal therapy session. If you need help, we have a great school counselor on staff."
Also in my experience, I've noticed kinks and difficulties with personality types usually worked themselves out by about the second week in class, unless it was a class that worked more with group exercises and cohort-type situations; typically those issues flew to full flame by the time finals/group presentations rolled around.
All that having been said, I think the style of lecture-- and how much interplay the students have-- is very variable from class to class; some profs like to open lectures up to personal experiences so that the students engage on a different level... I'd look over the syllabus and try to gauge the style of class/prof to see if s/he seems loose and informal or more structured, and then shoot a quick clarifying email as to shat you can expect from the class...

good luck!!


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